Write Your Story, Your Way...

This month I have been giving psycho-educational talks on themes relating to how thoughts, obsessions, addictions, and attachments can lead us into ways of thinking, feeling and living that are not necessarily our truth, but rather, are just our state of mind in a moment, or a period of time. I see the mind as an ocean of currents, swirling in constant motion, if we allow, so that just as emotions come and go and flow, so do our thoughts. However, sometimes we do not let go, but hold on to an idea, a fear, an obsession, a belief, a want, a need, and we fixate, holding it and ourselves in a timeless space,  in limbo: out of the natural currents and flows of mind and life, and in a state of dis-ease. In most cases, holding on to anything prolongs the agony of desire; of wanting, of needing, of what was or what could be. In this state of mind; out of the natural rhythm and flow of mind, we miss life; we are not living in the world, but lost in thought; acting out the stories and dramatizations of a mind that often is not serving us well, indeed, living a story that may not even be our truth.
Our thoughts are not our truth, they are many truths, from many people and situations, from impulses, automatic reactions, experiences and events. These are all limitations of a greater truth. Your truth, is what matters to you; your values,your perception, your unique feeling and expression. Select those thoughts and images that support the story you want to experience, then expression of yourself you want to be and share, and the responses you choose to make.

By recognising that what we are thinking, feeling and doing, and then asking: ‘Is this serving my highest good, my real truth, my growth and the direction in which I want to walk?’ we can then decide if we need to hold on to these thoughts or behaviors, or to try to allow the thought to keep flowing, guiding the mind to a more positive, lighter and brighter place. Writing a brighter story begins with the choice to do so, and the dedication to our truth; to the story we want to write, as we let go of those stories in our mind that we no longer want.

Ask yourself:

• What am I feeling?
• What am I thinking about?
• Do I need to think about this right now?
• Is thinking this way helping me to solve a dilemma or just making me feel negative?
• Can I let it go for now?
• What is the story of my life that I choose to write – how do I want to live, feel, and experience my life?
• What thoughts can I choose to cultivate and what images can I create in my mind to support the story that I wish to write?
• What story am I going to write now?

Writing the story of your life, does not mean making any attachment to the idea that what we write will come true, it means crafting a vision and walking towards it, accepting of whatever life brings along the way, because we cannot control life, we can choose to embrace what happens, and keep walking towards our dreams and goals, with wonderment at how the path may unfold, and the potential and possibilities beyond our horizons, and with courage, determination, passion, love and faith that whatever happens, we get to write the story our way.